Suicide Cries Out of Darkness
God created us with a will to live. Survival naturally flows from our innate instincts. No sweet innocent child wakes up one morning seeking for ways to die. Children burst with energy and curious quest for living life to its fullest. Suicide grows out of darkness that surrounds experience of assault, trauma and abuse. Suicide grows exponentially in our society since it teaches in a godless vacuum with no true hope.
Yes, "Hope" popularized as the new magically word to be the answer to all the problems, but a word is empty, meaningless and dangerous when the focus of the hope is a person, program, or political party. Young people despair when they reach out for the promised hope and it is nothing but hot air.
It didn't take me long as a youth to realize most adults and people in authority were clueless about how to really help someone that was suffering from the internal bleeding of daily child abuse. Wrapping me tightly with band aid solutions did little to rescue me from the hell-hole I lived in.
If you are going to help people who are in crisis being traumatized by the very people who are suppose to protect them, requires someone who is willing to get dirty. Healers get into the nasty mess of mind, heart, and spirit that is already in the process of dying a slow agonizing death. Platitudes wound as deeply as the abuse.
So, what effective measures can be taken to bind up the brokenhearted, to heal the sick and set the captives of Satan free? Apart from the power of God through the indwelling and fresh anointing of the Holy Spirit, all efforts vainly identify the symptom, but give hollow hope with no lasting results. God is clear that it takes someone who has suffered to minister to those who suffer. God can take a healer to deep levels of suffering, even to experience vicarious trauma, to work through the answers to bring someone on the edge of suicide to safety.
If you are sensitive to God moving in the lives of others, hurting people will pass in and out of your life that are suicidal. When we open our hearts to help hurting people because we have been blessed to know God's healing power, we make contact with suffering people.
It is my strong belief that unless you have finished healing, taken professional classes in how to treat clients in therapy, or been called and empowered by God that you should refer someone who is suicidal to a more qualified person. It is OK to be part of a support group, but it is not a good idea to be a long-term (or even short-term) counseling-type friend to someone who is not emotionally stable. Suicidal people are like a wild, frightened non-swimmer caught in a deep ocean. If you don't have your life-safety gear, you can get pulled into their drowning waters.
Frankly, anyone in their own raw healing stages of abuse are too deeply consumed by their own healing and are in no position to help another wounded person without inflicting more pain on wounds not yet healed. Also it is very easy for the trauma of another to trigger you into your own trauma spin. In the end you have hurt your own ability to progress in healing and along with often hurting your own family who has to watch and experience your crash or setback.
Let the healthy Christians handle the sick. Be available as a resource for those ministering, but don't take on any person yourself. Being a resource is a great way you can help others who are suffering from depression, dissociation, cutting, addiction and suicidal thoughts. While you are not directly working with the person who is despairingly crying out for help, you can minister powerfully by being a coach to those who are called to minister in emergency crisis situations, like suicide.
It is so easy for an unstable person to be emotionally dependent. It can become a barnacle relationship, once this overly dependent person attaches to you it can be so difficult to get them off. And in the process they can weigh you down or drag you into a direction you do not need to go. Even trained healers need to step back and set firm boundaries identifying a wide array of "go-to" support for a fragile soul.
Suicidal desires are driven by demonic suggestions trying to convince the delicate child (regardless of age) that everyone would be better off if they were not living. Suicide is not an act of selfishness - this is a deceptive lie of the enemy. Most people who think about suicide conclude that they are a burden on those they love and they are desperately trying to find a way to stop hurting people they care about.
Instead of it being selfish, demonic voices have convinced them that taking their life would be the best solution. Clearly Scripture says that we love our self, even to the sinful point of being selfish. God tells us to treat our neighbor as ourselves. He also tells spouses to care for their beloved or a way to put yourself first. While there are people who cry wolf with repeated suicidal attempts, they really are begging for help, because they see no way to healing or victory.
God is always the answer for the hopeless, because He is faithful and worthy of being our source of all hope. He is Jehovah-Jireh able to provide for all of our needs. He is Jehovah-Nissi walking before us with a banner of protection and righteousness. He is El Elyon leading the fight against the darkest of enemies. But most of all to a crumbling hurting person, He is our unconditional, full of grace and forgiveness Daddy, our Abba Father! When a hurting child realizes that their Abba Father will hold them even in the deepest quicksand of life's storms, she will have the mustard seed faith necessary to hold on to life, and reject the enemy calling her to death.
Yes, "Hope" popularized as the new magically word to be the answer to all the problems, but a word is empty, meaningless and dangerous when the focus of the hope is a person, program, or political party. Young people despair when they reach out for the promised hope and it is nothing but hot air.It didn't take me long as a youth to realize most adults and people in authority were clueless about how to really help someone that was suffering from the internal bleeding of daily child abuse. Wrapping me tightly with band aid solutions did little to rescue me from the hell-hole I lived in.
If you are going to help people who are in crisis being traumatized by the very people who are suppose to protect them, requires someone who is willing to get dirty. Healers get into the nasty mess of mind, heart, and spirit that is already in the process of dying a slow agonizing death. Platitudes wound as deeply as the abuse.
So, what effective measures can be taken to bind up the brokenhearted, to heal the sick and set the captives of Satan free? Apart from the power of God through the indwelling and fresh anointing of the Holy Spirit, all efforts vainly identify the symptom, but give hollow hope with no lasting results. God is clear that it takes someone who has suffered to minister to those who suffer. God can take a healer to deep levels of suffering, even to experience vicarious trauma, to work through the answers to bring someone on the edge of suicide to safety.
If you are sensitive to God moving in the lives of others, hurting people will pass in and out of your life that are suicidal. When we open our hearts to help hurting people because we have been blessed to know God's healing power, we make contact with suffering people.
It is my strong belief that unless you have finished healing, taken professional classes in how to treat clients in therapy, or been called and empowered by God that you should refer someone who is suicidal to a more qualified person. It is OK to be part of a support group, but it is not a good idea to be a long-term (or even short-term) counseling-type friend to someone who is not emotionally stable. Suicidal people are like a wild, frightened non-swimmer caught in a deep ocean. If you don't have your life-safety gear, you can get pulled into their drowning waters.
Frankly, anyone in their own raw healing stages of abuse are too deeply consumed by their own healing and are in no position to help another wounded person without inflicting more pain on wounds not yet healed. Also it is very easy for the trauma of another to trigger you into your own trauma spin. In the end you have hurt your own ability to progress in healing and along with often hurting your own family who has to watch and experience your crash or setback.
Let the healthy Christians handle the sick. Be available as a resource for those ministering, but don't take on any person yourself. Being a resource is a great way you can help others who are suffering from depression, dissociation, cutting, addiction and suicidal thoughts. While you are not directly working with the person who is despairingly crying out for help, you can minister powerfully by being a coach to those who are called to minister in emergency crisis situations, like suicide.
It is so easy for an unstable person to be emotionally dependent. It can become a barnacle relationship, once this overly dependent person attaches to you it can be so difficult to get them off. And in the process they can weigh you down or drag you into a direction you do not need to go. Even trained healers need to step back and set firm boundaries identifying a wide array of "go-to" support for a fragile soul.
Suicidal desires are driven by demonic suggestions trying to convince the delicate child (regardless of age) that everyone would be better off if they were not living. Suicide is not an act of selfishness - this is a deceptive lie of the enemy. Most people who think about suicide conclude that they are a burden on those they love and they are desperately trying to find a way to stop hurting people they care about.
Instead of it being selfish, demonic voices have convinced them that taking their life would be the best solution. Clearly Scripture says that we love our self, even to the sinful point of being selfish. God tells us to treat our neighbor as ourselves. He also tells spouses to care for their beloved or a way to put yourself first. While there are people who cry wolf with repeated suicidal attempts, they really are begging for help, because they see no way to healing or victory.God is always the answer for the hopeless, because He is faithful and worthy of being our source of all hope. He is Jehovah-Jireh able to provide for all of our needs. He is Jehovah-Nissi walking before us with a banner of protection and righteousness. He is El Elyon leading the fight against the darkest of enemies. But most of all to a crumbling hurting person, He is our unconditional, full of grace and forgiveness Daddy, our Abba Father! When a hurting child realizes that their Abba Father will hold them even in the deepest quicksand of life's storms, she will have the mustard seed faith necessary to hold on to life, and reject the enemy calling her to death.
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