Healing From Relationship that is Abusive
Many people are abused in relationships. The abuse usually doesn't start immediately, but rears it ugly head in jealousy and control. These are two danger signs - walk away, run if you have to when you are in a relationship with someone who begins to show jealousy and control. The abuse may start verbal or maybe with a shove, a slap, a squeeze. Don't second guess your natural instinct - as soon as you feel you are being mistreated should say, "goodbye."
But how do you recover if you have been in an abusive relationship... here are some things to consider.
Abuse is not something you can just wish away like blowing the seeds from a dandelion flower or wash away like taking a shower after you have been digging in a garden. The seeds may fly for a moment but they will eventually land in your soul and the hurt will grow and show when you least expect it or want it. And the dirt may wash away on the outside but the painful marks are still on your inside.
God want to heal you from the inside out. Abuse is not something to ignore but to allow God to walk you through and He will show you how to persevere through all the ugly time you had with this abusive first guy. I want to caution you to make sure you are whole before you get deeply involved in a new relationship. Give yourself time to get to know God in a very personal way and for Him to heal the hurts you have experienced.
If you do, you will experience greater abilities to be who God created you to be and to be a more stable person to offer in a relationship. In this blog, you will read many articles about healing under the column Abuse and Trauma. If you still have questions, leave comments or come back and write here. There are wonderful supportive groups to walk with you.
You are so precious. I am so sorry you were treated this way. Forgiveness doesn't mean you will simply forget. Forgiveness is an act of your will, even if it doesn't feel like it. God will bring the result of forgiveness to heal your heart.
Take recovery in your pace. Don't compare yourself to others. You are worth the time.
But how do you recover if you have been in an abusive relationship... here are some things to consider.
Abuse is not something you can just wish away like blowing the seeds from a dandelion flower or wash away like taking a shower after you have been digging in a garden. The seeds may fly for a moment but they will eventually land in your soul and the hurt will grow and show when you least expect it or want it. And the dirt may wash away on the outside but the painful marks are still on your inside.God want to heal you from the inside out. Abuse is not something to ignore but to allow God to walk you through and He will show you how to persevere through all the ugly time you had with this abusive first guy. I want to caution you to make sure you are whole before you get deeply involved in a new relationship. Give yourself time to get to know God in a very personal way and for Him to heal the hurts you have experienced.
If you do, you will experience greater abilities to be who God created you to be and to be a more stable person to offer in a relationship. In this blog, you will read many articles about healing under the column Abuse and Trauma. If you still have questions, leave comments or come back and write here. There are wonderful supportive groups to walk with you.
You are so precious. I am so sorry you were treated this way. Forgiveness doesn't mean you will simply forget. Forgiveness is an act of your will, even if it doesn't feel like it. God will bring the result of forgiveness to heal your heart.
Take recovery in your pace. Don't compare yourself to others. You are worth the time.
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