Why Do People Commit Suicide?
Many people assume a person commits suicide to get back at others and because they are selfish. I am sure a few people do this, but that is NOT the reason MOST people commit suicide.
They feel like a failure, like they are incompetent or can do nothing but hurt others or bring pain. They don't like the way they are and they don't see how they can change, because the flaws they see are so ingrained in who they perceive themselves to be.
They feel trapped, like there is no way out, no way to improve, no way to overcome the obstacles.
And yes, they have tried. They have tried and tried and tried but every time they step out again they end up with the same results.
They do not see suicide as hurting others because they don't feel very connected to others and those that they are connected to they reason that those people would be better off not having them in their life because they are only causing problems, pain and sorrow.
People who commit suicide are hurting inside so deeply; their pain is so overwhelming that the fear of death is less painful. They see death as a release, a way out, an end to the continual cycle of failure and behavior/thoughts within their being that they cannot stop.
Frequently, suicidal people have tried to talk and reach out for help but others have not understood. Therefore, they think people will never be able to understand them. Again, they feel so isolated from others. And anyone in life that does love them, they don't want to bring that person down to their level; moreover, they want to set those that love them free from "the burden" they have become.
When a person understands that they are created by God, for His glory, for His service, they learn that they must be obedient to Him. God wants to heal the brokenhearted and release His forgiveness and grace to the person to restore them to holiness and righteousness. Healing is rarely instantaneous; it is hard work.
Apart from God, suicide is a logical answer to so many of life's "impossible" situations.
But, a strong grounding in Biblical truth is the life vest for a suicidal person.
We are "saved" not for ourselves but unto God. When we become regenerated, born from above, the Holy Spirit comes to dwell within our body. We are no longer our own, but we are a servant of the Living God. He is our Master/Lord. Our life is a living sacrifice to be obedience to Him. This is why being a Christian is a relationship. We must learn to listen to God and to study His Word to know that we are living a life pleasing to Him.
God can take the most desperate, failing life circumstances and turn them into a purposeful, glorious life testimony that can be lifelines to others in this evil, fallen world.
Often it is through serving in ministry, reaching out to the least of these, that a person realizes that they are not as dysfunctional or a failure as they can feel when they are alone. Serving others is an antidote to suicidal thoughts. And I am not taking about being a doormat to be abused by others, but really being filled by the Holy Spirit and allowing God to point out during the day what needs to be said and done as you live moment and moment throughout the day.
Having a real relationship with God and renewing your mind with His Word is the anchor to keep afloat during the most turbulent storms of doubt, failure, shame, and sorrow.
I hope this helps. Don't call a suicidal person selfish. Listen to them. Unconditionally love them. Forgive them and show them the grace of God. Help them to know God and pray that they will draw near to Him.
Love, Lindy
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So, why do people commit suicide?
They feel like a failure, like they are incompetent or can do nothing but hurt others or bring pain. They don't like the way they are and they don't see how they can change, because the flaws they see are so ingrained in who they perceive themselves to be.
They feel trapped, like there is no way out, no way to improve, no way to overcome the obstacles.
And yes, they have tried. They have tried and tried and tried but every time they step out again they end up with the same results.
They do not see suicide as hurting others because they don't feel very connected to others and those that they are connected to they reason that those people would be better off not having them in their life because they are only causing problems, pain and sorrow.
People who commit suicide are hurting inside so deeply; their pain is so overwhelming that the fear of death is less painful. They see death as a release, a way out, an end to the continual cycle of failure and behavior/thoughts within their being that they cannot stop.
Frequently, suicidal people have tried to talk and reach out for help but others have not understood. Therefore, they think people will never be able to understand them. Again, they feel so isolated from others. And anyone in life that does love them, they don't want to bring that person down to their level; moreover, they want to set those that love them free from "the burden" they have become.
So, what can keep a person from committing suicide?
They have to have solid reasons for living and this reason is best when solidified in God who created them.When a person understands that they are created by God, for His glory, for His service, they learn that they must be obedient to Him. God wants to heal the brokenhearted and release His forgiveness and grace to the person to restore them to holiness and righteousness. Healing is rarely instantaneous; it is hard work.
Apart from God, suicide is a logical answer to so many of life's "impossible" situations.
But, a strong grounding in Biblical truth is the life vest for a suicidal person.
We are "saved" not for ourselves but unto God. When we become regenerated, born from above, the Holy Spirit comes to dwell within our body. We are no longer our own, but we are a servant of the Living God. He is our Master/Lord. Our life is a living sacrifice to be obedience to Him. This is why being a Christian is a relationship. We must learn to listen to God and to study His Word to know that we are living a life pleasing to Him.
God can take the most desperate, failing life circumstances and turn them into a purposeful, glorious life testimony that can be lifelines to others in this evil, fallen world.
Often it is through serving in ministry, reaching out to the least of these, that a person realizes that they are not as dysfunctional or a failure as they can feel when they are alone. Serving others is an antidote to suicidal thoughts. And I am not taking about being a doormat to be abused by others, but really being filled by the Holy Spirit and allowing God to point out during the day what needs to be said and done as you live moment and moment throughout the day.
Having a real relationship with God and renewing your mind with His Word is the anchor to keep afloat during the most turbulent storms of doubt, failure, shame, and sorrow.
I hope this helps. Don't call a suicidal person selfish. Listen to them. Unconditionally love them. Forgive them and show them the grace of God. Help them to know God and pray that they will draw near to Him.
Love, Lindy
Comments
Sometimes it helps to know that our life does not belong to us when we are saved. It belongs to God and therefore he is the one who gets to decide when we take our last breath. Until that day, our reason for living is not over.
While every person gets to make a choice what they will live for and how they will live, we are all human and eternal. When life is over here on earth we will continue for eternity somewhere.
Often when a person choses not to see the spiritual part of themselves they have less depth in their understanding of the meaning of life. Truly I cannot image how a person could deal with all the tragic things that happen in life without seeing beyond the physical state.
ralph oden